Everything we've published on heal with death.
19 articles
Autumn rehearses death every year. What trees, ancestral rituals, and the body’s own seasonal shifts can teach us about grief and letting go.
Everyone braces for the first year of loss. Almost no one warns you that year two, when the support fades and the numbness wears off, can hit harder.
A field guide to the grief that doesn't come with a script — miscarriage, estrangement, a second year that's harder than the first — and the research behind why each one goes unwitnessed.
Forgetting names, rereading the same email four times, blanking mid-sentence — grief brain is real, physiological, and rarely talked about at work. Here's how to function through it.
We've forgotten how to sit with the dying. A death doula on what a vigil actually asks of you, and how to hold space for someone in their final days.
There's a whole aisle of cards for a death, and nothing for an estrangement, a miscarriage, or a friendship that ended. Here's what to actually write, loss by loss.
Grief doesn't always look like tears. Sometimes it's a thick, disorienting fog — and a two-minute grounding practice for exactly those moments.
Why green burial is, for many families, the thing that finally feels honoring instead of processed: the old way of returning a body to the earth, explained by a death doula.
Grief keeps colliding with expectations nobody fact-checked. Twelve real patterns in how grief works, each paired with the research or history behind it.
Long before hospitals, the village strega came to the deathbed with plants in her hands. A death doula on the herbal death care we forgot we had, and why it still works.
Naming the loss, the Anchor Object practice, and other concrete tools for grief that society never formally recognized in the first place.
On Stregheria, the indigenous Italian folk-magic tradition, and what it teaches about ancestor veneration, home altars, and the sacred rites of dying and leaving.
"Am I a bad person for needing space from my grieving friend?" On secondary grief, compassion fatigue, and how to actually say you need a limit.
Pain isn't a malfunction — it's information nobody else can see. Understanding why evolution built us to hurt explains both the pain and why it goes so unacknowledged.
Miscarriage grief rarely gets treated as what it actually is — the loss of a whole imagined future, not just a medical event with a short recovery window.
On grief in summer: what the science actually says, and why loss feels louder when the world insists on being beautiful.
The diagnosis came in March. By May, your mother still looked like your mother, still made jokes at the dinner table, still asked about your kids. But something had already shifted in the room. You fe
Your chest is tight. You cannot take a full breath. You haven't slept through a night in three weeks, and when you do sleep, you wake at 3:47am with your jaw clenched like you have been fighting somet
A friend asked me what I do for a living last year, at a dinner party, in that tone people use when they already know you're about to make things weird. I told her I'm a death doula. She nodded polite
