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The First 500 Hours
The three weeks after a death are the most disorienting a family will face, and almost none of it is intuitive. This is the whole sequence, in the order it actually happens, from the first hour through closing the estate. Read it straight through, or jump to where you are.
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All 92 articlesMost death doula training teaches the logistics beautifully and skips the sacred entirely. On the gap in modern doula training, and why nature-based practice fills it.
We've forgotten how to sit with the dying. A death doula on what a vigil actually asks of you, and how to hold space for someone in their final days.
Why green burial is, for many families, the thing that finally feels honoring instead of processed — the old way of returning a body to the earth, explained by a death doula.
Long before hospitals, the village strega came to the deathbed with plants in her hands. A death doula on the herbal death care we forgot we had, and why it still works.
On Stregheria, the indigenous Italian folk-magic tradition, and what it teaches about ancestor veneration, home altars, and the sacred rites of dying and leaving.
Bassam Aramin’s ten-year-old daughter Abir was killed by Israeli Border Police gunfire in 2007. On meeting the Israeli father who lost his own daughter the same way, and choosing peace over revenge.