“I work with people at the threshold - the moments that bring you to your knees and ask you who you are.”
Victoria has spent 15 years at the beginning and end of life - as a birth doula and a death doula. She will sit bedside with the dying. She will be with your family in the room. She will stay when everyone else goes home.
Victoria Holmes
Birth & Death Doula
15 Years
at the Threshold
Co-Founder
Otherside
My message
You weren’t ready for this. Nobody is.
I was 17 when I walked through the rubble of a suicide bombing. Young women my age. And I didn’t know how to hold what I’d seen, because nobody around me did either. That absence never left me. I do this work because I know what it costs to go through something unbearable without someone who can hold it with you.
I’m not here to fix it. I’m here to make sure you don’t have to carry it alone.
The people who find their way to Victoria
The dying
People facing a terminal diagnosis who want presence, not protocol. Someone to sit with them, in body and in spirit, through the final passage.
Families at the threshold
Families who don’t know how to be with someone who is dying, and who want to do it with meaning, not managed from a distance.
The grief-struck
People months or years post-loss who never got a real container for what they’re carrying, who still feel it in their body and don’t understand why.
Life quake survivors
Anyone whose life has been restructured by a threshold moment: loss of identity, spiritual crisis, a rupture that has no obvious roadmap.
Anticipatory grief
Families navigating a terminal diagnosis, grieving a loss that hasn’t happened yet, and needing support in the waiting.
Legacy & meaning
Helping the dying and their families translate a life into something that continues, through ritual, story, and intentional goodbye.
Right for you if…
If any of these are true, you’re in the right place.
- You feel overwhelmed, numb, or unsure how to function after a loss
- You’re sitting with someone who is dying and don’t know how to be present
- You’re carrying grief that others expect you to be "over" by now
- You want someone with spiritual depth, not a clinical protocol
- You’re in a life-quake moment and need a guide who has been at the edge themselves
How I work
I don’t follow a script. I bring what the moment asks for, and I’ve spent years building the toolkit to meet it. I work somatically, spiritually, and practically. Sometimes all three at once.
You don’t have to carry it alone.
Otherside Life coordinates; care is provided by the practitioner.